Why are we so alone? This is the question I ask myself frequently.

 But we aren't!!!!!!!!what with all those people around us -our family, friends, colleagues, acquaintances and even strangers- in fact we are surrounded by a sea of  humanity.

Yes we are! the sea of humanity is nowhere to be seen if you look carefully enough. The decisions we make are our own, the upheavals our mind goes through day in and day out are felt by none but ourselves, only our heart bears the testimony to the blows it is subjected to, in none of our endeavours the sea of humanity makes it presence felt.

C'mon man! don't we celebrate with our family and friends with utter joy and undying fervour, are they not around to relieve us of our sorrows, and aren't they the same people we look for advice when in moments of contemplation. These gems are the reasons our lives sparkle so bright , they make this stupid world worth living in (this last line is lifted and adapted).

Where does the sparkle vanish when the shadows emerge? When the destiny plays its sinister plan and throws us into a blackhole of never-ending struggle, the only people who emerge are the naysayers proclaiming sarcastically "didn't-i-say-so".The trust is lost, the confidence is lost, the spirit is lost; what is not lost is life- life,whose weight we must drag along on our solitary shoulders through the rocky terrain before us.

The struggle gives meaning to life. The struggle which tires us, saps us out of our breaths, ready to crush us into a million small shards of nothingness also polishes us, works like a sculptor with his chisel shaping us up in perfect symmetry to bring up a masterpiece. And after all that sweat drenched time when we come back home to witness the pride glowing on our father's face, the pent-up unconditional love of our mother being showered on us in enormity, the mischievious curl of our brothers' lips saying more than any words can and the open arms of our friends beckoning us with all the gusto- then what we experience is pure elation, an elation which lifts us off the ground and leaves us light as a feather.

But when the sculptor deals us a brutal blow and what is left is broken pieces of what could have been a masterpiece but now is a pile of uncomprehensible shapes. When this happens then we come back home to not pride, not smiles, not gusto, no not any of the above but only dissapointment and sighs, drooping lips and drooping shoulders. We can feel the sharp gaze of the world boring  through our body, making us scream which they are silent to because they only heed success. The brutal world does not recognise philosphy, this cruel monster calls a failure "Failure" and not "A-stepping-stone-to-success", and it distances itself as far as it can from us.

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THE ARGUEMENT SEEMS TO HAVE NO END. I REQUEST MY FRIENDS TO PUT FORWARD A FITTING CONCLUSION TO IT - IT MAY BE EITHER WAY.

BESIDES THIS YOUR VIEWS ARE ALWAYS WELCOME, IN FORM OF COMMENTS, ON THE PIECE ITSELF.

ADIOS

Okay,I know I'm not the only son who loves his mom like anything but really she does deserve a complete blog entry to herself( in fact she deserves everything she wishes for),not because she is my mom( though that is a good enough reason too) but because of the BEAUTIFUL person she is.Never in my whole life i've ever been subjected to any restrictions, never have my decisions been frowned upon, never did anyone govern the course of my life- all thanks to my mom!We share a bond which is so special that I feel grateful all the time.

She has this childish streak too in her-when we are together there takes place a role reversal of sorts,she becomes the child and irritates me playfully,hides in unlikliest of places and scares me by showing up with a bang--too immmature some would say but i think this is the most innocent ex-pression of unconditional love I've ever witnessed.Though in the presence of other people she is usually her stern self but I don't mind even that because I understand her so well that the term generation-gap seems non-existent.

On my part I may say that I too have been very careful and alert not to hurt her even unknowingly.I guess thats the reason she invests blind faith in me.I just hope and pray to God that we continue in the same vein all along our lives and then i will be able to call my life worth it. Amen! 

I'll be honest I found this really interesting stuff on this very blog service but it is just so perfect for my first serious blog entry.If you've already read it then just amuse me by leaving a comment,if you haven't then read on and you'll like it. I completely relate to it and hope you would too.So ,here goes nothing:-

99 SECRETS GIRLS SHOULD KNOW ABOUT

GUYS


1. Guys don't actually look after good-looking girls. They 

    prefer neat and presentable girls.

2. Guys hate flirts.

3. A guy can like you for a minute, and then forget you  

    afterwards.

4. When a guy says he doesn't understand you, it simply  

    means you're not thinking the way he is.

5. "Are you doing something?" or "Have you eaten already?"  

    are the first usual questions a guy asks on the
    phone just to get out from stammering.

6. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to   

    sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care  

    about.

7. When a guy really likes you, he'll disregard all your bad
    characteristics.

8. Guys go crazy over a girl's smile .

9. Guys will do anything just to get the girl's attention.

10. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend.

11. When guys want to meet your parents. Let them.

12. Guys want to tell you many things but they can't. And  

      they sure have one habit to gain courage and spirit to
      tell you many things and it is drinking!

13. Guys cry!!!

14. Don't provoke the guy to heat up. Believe me. He will.

15. Guys can never dream and hope too much.

16. Guys usually try hard to get the girl who has dumped   

      them, and this makes it harder for them to accept their   

      defeat.

17. When you touch a guy's heart, there's no turning back.

18. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know   

      what?!..uh...never mind!" would make him jump to a
      conclusion that is far from what you are thinking.

19. Guys go crazy when girls touch their hands.

20. Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually    

      stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.

21. When a guy makes a prolonged "umm" or makes any   

      excuses when you're asking him to do you a favor,
      he's actually saying that he doesn't like you and he can't    

      lay down the card for you.

22. When a girl says "no", a guy hears it as "try again  

      tomorrow."

23. You have to tell a guy what you really want before he  

      gets the message clearly.

24. Guys hate gays!

25. Guys love their moms.

26. A guy would sacrifice his money for lunch just to get you   

      a couple of roses.

27. A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this   

      doesn't mean that the guy likes her.

28. You can never understand him unless you listen to him.

29. If a guy tells you he loves you once in a lifetime. He   

      does.

30. Beware. Guys can make gossips scatter through half of

      the face of the earth faster than girls can.

31. Like Eve, girls are guys' weaknesses.

32. Guys are very open about themselves.

33. It's good to test a guy first before you believe him. But  

     don't let him wait that long.

34. No guy is bad when he is courting

35. Guys hate it when their clothes get dirty. Even a small  

      dot.

36. Guys really admire girls that they like even if they're not  

      that much pretty.

37. Your best friend, whom your boyfriend seeks help from  

      about his problems with you may end up being
      admired by your boyfriend.

38. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs  

      someone to listen to him. You don't need to give advice.

39. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he  

      teases you.  
 

40. A guy finds ways to keep you off from linking with  

      someone else.

41. Guys love girls with brains more than girls in miniskirts.

42. Guys try to find the stuffed toy a girl wants but would  

      unluckily get the wrong one.

43. Guys virtually brag about anything.

44. Guys cannot keep secrets that girls tell them.

45. Guys think too much.

46. Guys' fantasies are unlimited.

47. Girls' height doesn't really matter to a guy but her  

      weight does!

48. Guys tend to get serious with their relationship and  

      become too possessive. So watch out girls!!!

49. When a girl makes the boy suffer during courtship, it    

      would be hard for him to let go of that girl.

50. It's not easy for a guy to let go of his girlfriend after  

      they broke up especially when they've been together
      for 3 years or more.

51. You have to tell a guy what you really want before  

      getting involved with that guy.

52. A guy has to experience rejection, because if he's

      too-good-never-been-busted, never been in love and   

      hurt, he won't be matured and grow up.

53. When an unlikable circumstance comes, guys blame   

      themselves a lot more than girls do. They could even
      hurt themselves physically.

54. Guys have strong passion to change but have weak will    

      power.

55. Guys are tigers in their peer groups but become tamed   

      pussycats with their girlfriends.

56. When a guy pretends to be calm, check if he's sweating.  

      You'll probably see that he is nervous .

57. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl. He  

      really is.

58. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he's just  

      actually saying, "Please come and listen to me"

59. Guys don't really have final decisions.

60. When a guy loves you, bring out the best in him.

61. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him.

62. If a guy has been kept shut or silent, say something.

63. Guys believe that there's no such thing as love at first   

      sight, but court the girls anyway and then realize at the
      end that he is wrong.

64. Guys like femininity not feebleness.

65. Guys don't like girls who punch harder than they do.

66. A guy may instantly know if the girl likes him but can  

      never be sure unless the girl tells him.

67. A guy would waste his time over video games and  

      basketball, the way a girl would do over her romance
      novels and make-ups.

68. Guys love girls who can cook or bake.

69. Guys like girls who are like their moms. No kidding!

70. A guy has more problems than you can see with your   

      naked eyes.

71. A guy's friend knows everything about him. Use this to  

      your advantage.

72. Don't be a snob. Guys may easily give up on the first  

      sign of rejection.

73. Don't be biased. Try loving a guy without prejudice and  

      you'll be surprised.

74. Girls who bathe in their eau de perfumes do more  

      repelling than attracting guys.

75. Guys are more talkative than girls are especially when   

      the topic is about girls.

76. Guys don't comprehend the statement "Get lost" too  

      well.

77. Guys really think that girls are strange and have  

      unpredictable decisions but still love them more.

78. When a guy gives a crooked or pretentious grin at your  

      jokes, he finds them offending and he just tried to
      be polite.

79. Guys don't care about how shiny their shoes are unlike  

      girls.

80. Guys tend to generalize about girls but once they get to  

      know them,they'll realize they're wrong.

81. Any guy can handle his problems all by his own. He's  

      just too stubborn to deal with it.

82. Guys find it so objectionable when a girl swears.

83. Guys' weakest point is at the knee.

84. When a problem arises, a guy usually keeps himself cool  

      but is already thinking of a way out.

85. When a guy is conscious of his looks, it shows he is not  

      good at fixing things.

86. When a guy looks at you, either he's amazed of you or  

      he's criticizing you.

87. When you catch him cheating on you and he asks for a  

      second chance, give it to him. But when you catch
      him again and he asks for another chance, ignore him.

88. If a guy lets you go, he really loves you.

89. If you have a boyfriend, and your boy best friend always  

      glances at you and it obviously shows that he is
     jealous whenever you're with your boyfriend, all I can        

     say is your boy best friend loves you more than
     your boyfriend does.

90. Guys learn from experience not from the romance books  

      that girls read and take as their basis of experience.

91. You can tell if a guy is really hurt or in pain when he  

      cries in  front of you!

92. If a guy suddenly asks you for a date, ask him first why.

93. When a guy says he can't sleep if he doesn't hear your  

      voice even just for one night, hang up. He also tells
      that to another girl. He only flatters you and sometimes     

      makes fun of you.

94. You can truly say that a guy has good intentions if you  

      see him praying sometimes.

95. Guys seek for advice not from a guy but from a girl.

96. Girls are allowed to touch boys' things. Not their hair!

97. If a guy says you're beautiful, that guy likes you.

98. Guys hate girls who overreact.

99. Guys love you more than you love them if they are  

      serious in your relationships